Embrace Your Inner Beginner!

Embrace Your Inner Beginner!

When was the last time you were a beginner at something?   Something SO NEW that it actually scared you a little, or A LOT?

There’s a quote that I love by Wendy Flynn;

“Allow yourself to be a beginner.  No one starts off being excellent.”  

Brilliant.  I think of it often when I’m diving into a new adventure.  

This year has been a BIG year of FIRSTS in my life and I’ve been scared a lot (like, a lot, a lot) but getting out of my comfort zone has been so stretching and has allowed me to grow, in leaps and bounds.  

It’s amazing the doors that open when you “take a chance on YOU”, even if in the moment you’re not really “feeling it” and you doubt yourself BIG TIME.  

My motto lately has been, “say YES to new opportunities”.  

This is actually my VERY FIRST BLOG post (thank you for reading!!).  Writing is something I’ve been thinking about and putting off because there is always that feeling of not being “good enough” to inspire others.  

Of course, that’s a lie that my “little voice between my two ears” tells me.

 I wish I could duct tape its mouth sometimes (the visual in my head is hilarious…haha).  

That little voice that whispers all our insecurities to us and makes them feel real.  This voice disguises its intentions by telling us that it’s “saving us from failure”, but in fact it’s stopping us from achieving great things in our lives.  

We ALL have something incredible to offer and share with others.  I’ve learned that as long as you know 1% more than someone else, you are adding value to their life.  You may be giving them that A-HA moment they’ve been craving.

Don’t hold back.  Get out of your comfort zone and dive into the world of EMBRACING your inner-beginner.  

Here are a few tips to help you take the first step:

1. Change Up Your Routine!

For example, are Monday nights a night you would normally stay home for dinner and watch TV?  Sign up for a class of some sort (yoga, painting, dancing).  Meet some new people and have NEW conversations!  

You never know who you’ll meet and what new opportunities and adventures you’ll learn about by simply talking and sharing with someone new.

2. Plan A Challenging Physical Goal

Set a goal to run a race or some other physical activity that you need to work up to.  By doing this you’re taking small steps towards a large accomplishment.  

You’re learning what you can and can’t do from the beginning and seeing your improvement with each day of training.  

Celebrate those improvements!   Find an accountability partner and WORK IT!  The pride you’ll feel after you complete the goal will give you a new sense of accomplishment.  Ignite a new fire for the next adventure!!  

3. Improve Your Communication Skills

Is communication and/or speaking publicly something you’d love to improve?

’m working on this myself!  I’ve heard that joining Toastmasters has been VERY beneficial for many.  The key is to find a club that suits you (there are thousands and not all are a fit for everyone).  There are also public speaking mentors and classes.   

Find one in your area and commit to being a beginner to grow your confidence in communication.  That is something that will benefit you in a BIG way in business and in life.  

4. Volunteer In A NEW Place:

If you normally volunteer with the blood bank then you already know the routine and the people, which is great!  Try volunteering with an organization outside of your comfort zone.  

It will allow you to meet NEW people, have NEW conversations, and learn something NEW.  

Encourage variety and change in your life, it’s where the adventure begins!  There are a lot of great organizations to choose from right in your community.

So… Be FIERCE, BE MIGHTY AND BE BRAVE my friends!   Conquer those “beginner fears”.  The BEST things in life happen outside of your comfort zone!  

Ashley Woodbine

Ashley Woodbine

Entrepreneur

Ashley lives in Toronto with her Husband and little pooch.  She is an entrepreneur with a main focus on helping other entrepreneurs flourish in their online businesses.  Check out “That Savvy Entrepreneur’ and more about Ashley here.

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Smart Enough To Quit

Smart Enough To Quit

For some reason the term “quitting” has been unfairly classified in this world. A term heavily painted with failure, one that is distasteful on the passage across your tongue, it accompanies a look, a feeling and an apology.

The assumptions that cloak and somehow seem to define a person once they have actually performed the act travel in the same neighbourhood as whispers, judgment and pity.

“Quitting” has been treated unfairly… subjected to a lifetime of distaste, shunned acceptance and weak-naturedness… never socially permitted to distinguish between the polar existences that “quitting” is forced to accommodate.

“Quitting” can be a practice of the weak – to leave responsibilities, projects or dreams unfinished, to give up on a worthwhile pursuit for a lack of equitable effort is an unfortunate robbery from the seeds of accomplishment.

Pride – the good kind lives only after persistence and dedication to the goal is sustained, the challenges traversed and the true honour earned that is now injected into your heart and soul as an irreversible deposit of personal integrity.

It is in this way that character is built… intentional construction of characteristics… a simple representation of what truly exists – not the titles or labels we select to define ourselves, but the realities of what we have done and who we are being.

In such an evolutionary time, we persist to use the term “quitting” as a definition of abject failure, and instead revere “Commitment”, as though that name is of a more respectable kind.

But, in definition alone, neither holds command… “Commitment” has just had a better PR team handling her for centuries.

It is easier to be committed to the wrong things for the sake of being committed – because we got sold on this by the PR Agency working for “Commitment”… and poor “Quitting” got stuck with a lemon of an underlying meaning of “losing” being framed the way she did….   It’s all about spin & fake news it seems…

I refer to dear old Webster under the presumption that their description would fulfill these truths, and to nothing less than astonishment I read their first definition, which stopped me straight.

To free oneself.

Sometimes, quitting trumps commitment.  Sometimes, quitting is the best choice.

Michell Smith

Michell Smith

CEO She The Mighty

Michell is a best selling author, sales, leadership and business consultant.  A grand slam, home-run, motivational speaker, she has spoken on stage more than 5000 times.  More here.

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Are You Above Average?

Are You Above Average?

One of the biggest lessons of my life has been one of the biggest keys to creating success and wealth.  It was one that I never would have expected and in fact would have vehemently opposed as a teenager…

A massive perspective change, a huge shift in thinking and in fact a new definition of my place in the world.

As a young adult I fully planned to live a successful life.

I did not know exactly how I was going to be successful but I knew that I would be, after all – I was above average.

I believed this whole heartedly and somehow this belief lent reason to the fact that success was inevitable as a by-product.

What I’ve learned is this – ask a room full of 20 year olds to raise their hand if they plan to be successful and watch the whole room’s hands go up.

Then ask them if they think they’re above average and observe the same response again.

Many, many people think they are above average. Somewhere in our early training the word “average” got a bad rap. We were pushed to not “settle” for average, and to work harder, to do better.

I agree with the theory of this but the result as it manifested in my own life was shocking. I believed that I was above average which immediately “lowered” the people around me.  When I was learning how to become a strong and influential leader at the age of 20, this one exclusive belief is what held me back more than almost anything else.

Believing I was above average gave me some form of sense of entitlement, that the world was expected to show up somehow more for me. It also meant that I thought that “average” people were not going to achieve as much success.

My studies lead to many life changing epiphanies, and this one champions most of them:

I am average. I believe that, am proud of that, and celebrate that.

The more people I’ve met, the more I know that most people are pretty freakin incredibly fantastic.  That “average” people are talented, generous, hilarious, smart, uplifting, ambitious and hopeful beings.

The fact is that being an average human being is a pretty magnificent thing to be. We are an incredible species with undeniable talents and abilities, massively intelligent and capable, adventurous and loving.

Being human is fantastically cool. The more people I have met the more impressed I have become.

I am happily average. I am but one of these people. And I am proud to be.

Seeing people this way immediately elevates everyone around me.  When this perspective shift authentically occurred, and this belief honestly arrived, my life completely changed.

My business exploded to levels of success in record breaking time.

People are smart.  They can feel how you see them.  They like to be around and do business with people who see them as their highest possible version of themselves.  They like to be respected, and appreciated, and listened to.

You want to be above average?  Be above average in the way you choose to see the greatness in others.

My life is surrounded with fantastically fabulous human beings who are unbelievably wise, humorously insightful, entertaining, caring and industrious.

We accomplish a tremendous amount, all of us, and that is a pretty amazing thing to be a part of.

Perhaps we have above average work ethic, or choose to have an above average attitude, maybe we work harder to be above average students of life and apply above average dedication to our goals, but as individuals – I see us as average, and I am grateful for this insight.

An average human is an undeniably remarkable wondrous and blessed thing to be.

One of the biggest gifts we have all been gifted with.

It is a pleasure to share this adventure with you.

Michell Smith

Michell Smith

CEO She The Mighty

Michell is a best selling author and speaker who’s mission is to empower women and girls to lead and succeed. Hire her to speak to and inspire your team here.

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