One of the biggest lessons of my life has been one of the biggest keys to creating success and wealth. It was one that I never would have expected and in fact would have vehemently opposed as a teenager…
A massive perspective change, a huge shift in thinking and in fact a new definition of my place in the world.
As a young adult I fully planned to live a successful life.
I did not know exactly how I was going to be successful but I knew that I would be, after all – I was above average.
I believed this whole heartedly and somehow this belief lent reason to the fact that success was inevitable as a by-product.
What I’ve learned is this – ask a room full of 20 year olds to raise their hand if they plan to be successful and watch the whole room’s hands go up.
Then ask them if they think they’re above average and observe the same response again.
Many, many people think they are above average. Somewhere in our early training the word “average” got a bad rap. We were pushed to not “settle” for average, and to work harder, to do better.
I agree with the theory of this but the result as it manifested in my own life was shocking. I believed that I was above average which immediately “lowered” the people around me. When I was learning how to become a strong and influential leader at the age of 20, this one exclusive belief is what held me back more than almost anything else.
Believing I was above average gave me some form of sense of entitlement, that the world was expected to show up somehow more for me. It also meant that I thought that “average” people were not going to achieve as much success.
My studies lead to many life changing epiphanies, and this one champions most of them:
I am average. I believe that, am proud of that, and celebrate that.
The more people I’ve met, the more I know that most people are pretty freakin incredibly fantastic. That “average” people are talented, generous, hilarious, smart, uplifting, ambitious and hopeful beings.
The fact is that being an average human being is a pretty magnificent thing to be. We are an incredible species with undeniable talents and abilities, massively intelligent and capable, adventurous and loving.
Being human is fantastically cool. The more people I have met the more impressed I have become.
I am happily average. I am but one of these people. And I am proud to be.
Seeing people this way immediately elevates everyone around me. When this perspective shift authentically occurred, and this belief honestly arrived, my life completely changed.
My business exploded to levels of success in record breaking time.
People are smart. They can feel how you see them. They like to be around and do business with people who see them as their highest possible version of themselves. They like to be respected, and appreciated, and listened to.
You want to be above average? Be above average in the way you choose to see the greatness in others.
My life is surrounded with fantastically fabulous human beings who are unbelievably wise, humorously insightful, entertaining, caring and industrious.
We accomplish a tremendous amount, all of us, and that is a pretty amazing thing to be a part of.
Perhaps we have above average work ethic, or choose to have an above average attitude, maybe we work harder to be above average students of life and apply above average dedication to our goals, but as individuals – I see us as average, and I am grateful for this insight.
An average human is an undeniably remarkable wondrous and blessed thing to be.
One of the biggest gifts we have all been gifted with.
It is a pleasure to share this adventure with you.
CEO She The Mighty
Michell is a best selling author and speaker who’s mission is to empower women and girls to lead and succeed. Hire her to speak to and inspire your team here.